The hater

“sex and the single dad is a cock guzzling fag. we hate single moo cows too [A SHITTY ASS SITE] get some!”

[I pulled this down earlier today but now they've screwed with another friend, so here we go...]

The above phrase was forwarded to me by a mom blogger I know.  It hit the comment section of her blog within two minutes of similar ones I received.  The actual link above takes you to a crappy landing page, but one of the links on that landing page takes you to their message board at http://refugees.bratfree.com/.

I had a Music Monday post all ready to go but this evening’s comments made me decide to put it off a day and post this instead.  Check out My Own Worst Enemy by Lit tomorrow.

After getting off work this evening I went and picked up Drama Queen from a friend’s house and we went home where I started preparing dinner.  As I was driving home I saw that I had a couple new comments on the blog and after starting dinner, I went to take a look at them.  What I saw completely pissed me off.  About the same time I was reading mine, I got a phone call from my friend, telling me about the one she received.

I shared mine with her and we were both shocked that people would send shit like this to random people.  What did I receive?  Here you go:

ur a loser daddy and can only date similar loser single moms who need your money

Seven minutes later I received this:

pig whore single mom slutbag

A couple hours later, after several Tweets about the site and the comments, I received this one:

I’ve farted and mede more sense than your fucking daddy blog. Go change a diaper or fist a single mom’s gaping hole.

Where do I even begin with this?  There are so many things about all this that flat out piss me off that I don’t even know where to start.  I guess the best way to start this is with a disclaimer:

I have no problem with people who choose not to be parents.  Everyone has the right to decide whether or not to become parents.  I absolutely respect their choice not to as they should respect people’s choice to have children.  It’s as simple as that.

What I write is in no way a slam on those who decide to live their life “brat free”, it’s directed at the person/people who sent the comments to my friend and I and to the people who publicly post vile, hateful comments about and towards parents on this message board and others like it.  You made your choice and I completely respect it just as I would expect you to respect my choice.

That being said, where the fuck does this person get off coming to two random blogs and spewing the shit they did tonight?  Did my daughter ever do anything to piss you off?  I would highly doubt it, considering she’s spent a whole 24 hours of her life in Illinois and not one single minute in or around Bloomingdale, IL.  Oops, did I just say where your IP address comes from?  Sorry.

I would guess that we are not the first people you’ve done this to, considering your IP address is Blacklisted with several companies, indicating that you are a spammer.  I don’t like spammers, but I can deal with the ones pimping Dish TV, cheap Viagra or car insurance.  Your kind of spam would make other spammers say, “Oh my God.  Don’t lump me in a category with this person!!!”

On their site’s Rules page they say that they welcome people of all races, culture, nationalities, ages and sexual orientations.  If that’s the case, why is someone who appears to be representing them, calling me a “cock guzzling fag”?  Apparently the author of these comments has no understanding of what a “hate word” is and they have definitely not grasped the meaning of the word “LIBEL”. As I am quite sure the person who submitted the comments is reading this blog post, I will save him/her the time it would take to go look it up:

“anything that is defamatory or that maliciously or damagingly misrepresents.” [www.dictionary.com]

Did this person write anything to misrepresent me?  Absolutely.  I’m not homosexual (“fag”).  I’m proudly heterosexual, but have no problem with people who are homosexual.

Was what this person defamatory and did he damagingly misrepresent me?  Sure.  What if there was an editor who wanted to hire me to work on a project and what if he/she had a problem with homosexuals and wouldn’t hire me because of my perceived sexual orientation?  The editor would be an ass for not hiring me based on that, but the person writing the comment damaged my professional reputation and possibly cost me an opportunity to earn a living.

Was the person malicious?  Abso-freaking-lutely!  I don’t think that being called a “cock guzzling fag” was meant as a pleasant greeting from someone I don’t know.

The things they called my friend were equally as bad.  “pig whore single mom slutbag”. Are you serious?  The only two words that are true are “single mom”.

I thought the fisting comment was especially classy.  You should share it with your mom.  Oh wait, you probably don’t talk to her because she’s a parent and you hate parents.  That has to make holidays awkward, huh?

And lastly, the comment that the person has farted and “mede” more sense than my “fucking daddy blog”—what the hell is “mede”?  How do you “mede” something?  I looked it up on Dictionary.com and I found that “mede” means:

“a native or inhabitant of Media.”*

The bottom line is this…

Everybody has their thing. If your thing isn’t someone else’s thing, you have no business going around anonymously ripping them, swearing at them and committing libel.  If you’re going to do this, grow some balls and use your REAL e-mail address and not: dd@gmail.com and g@gmail.com.  Seriously?  Are we supposed to think those are real?

Everyone has the right to choose whether or not they want kids and no one should publicly harass those that don’t live the same life as they do.

In case you’re wondering why I didn’t talk more about all the content on their site, it’s because in my personal opinion it was hurtful and in some cases harassing and threatening.  If you want to know what they say, go look for yourself.

J.R.

P.S.  Since writing they’ve also left nasty comments on http://notyouraveragesinglemomma.com/

*Media is a now non-existent region in Western Asia.